Lessons Learned in 2007

Like I said last year, Life is nothing but a string of decisions. Some decisions can make it better, some can keep it from growing, and others can change things for the worse. 2007 was definitely yet another of decisions and revelations.

Just like us, friendships evolve and change as well. At first I was hurt and dismayed when two of my four closest friendships changed for the worst in the past two years. But now when I think back on both of them I only think of all the good times and years we had. People grow and change over time, we can't expect our friendships not to evolve as well.

Faith goes beyond a church, a religion, and a Bible. My grandfather was a minister so church has always been a constant in my life. Twice on Sunday and every Wednesday for Bible study. Since leaving home my belief system has changed much to the dismay of my mother. I finally believe that the Bible is a good guide but it was written by man; i choose to be more spiritual than religious; and finding the right church that gives you spiritual nourishment is important regardless of the denomination.

HIV is real. Simple enough we have gotten careless and often think never us. HIV isn't the same disease it was in the 80s and early 90s and because of that many gays don't think about it as much as we should. In the past 2 years several friends have came out to me as being HIV positive... in the past 3 months, I have learned about 2 very close friends. HIV is real and we need to take it serious.

You can't plan life. One of my favorite movie quotes comes from Love and Basketball, when the character Monica says, "It's a trip, you know? When you're a kid, you-you see the life you want, and it never crosses your mind that it's not gonna turn out that way." The past two years of my life have made me realize that and I think this quote summarizes my 2007.

Hope all of you have learned some lessons that will help you get through 2008. Happy New Year!!


Cocoa Rican said...

Happy new year! Yes, the lessons have been many...and just when you think you've learned them all, you grow and are hit with some new lesson plans! It's all good...hoping 2008 brings you all you need and some of what you want...this way you'll always look forward to more... ;)

WhozHe said...

I've learned that acceptance is the key to peace in life. Whenever I'm frustrated or depressed it's usually because I'm unhappy with some reality. Once I accept that reality I can move on.

I wish you well in 2008.

Anonymous said...

It's just another year...

Clay said...

All very important lessons.

Happy New Year to you!

Andre J. Allen II said...

you live and you learn. and as the last quote you cant plan life all you can do is go with the flow. We all have plans and goals sometimes it comes thru and sometimes they dont. dont let that stop you from continuing to DO YOU and LIVE LIFE. Much love and continued blessings in 2008 for u. Continue to do you!

yet another black guy said...

man i don't always comment, but i always check in to get the words of wisdom from you and you never disappoint. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

oh, and that quote from 'Love & Basketball'? true and classic, like the blogger himself.

life said...

Happy New Year! Those are some great lessons learned (especially, HIV and friendship). The Love and Basketball quote is my favorite as well.

Chet said...

Continue living and you will learn, nothing stays the same and you are right it evolves which brings about change.
Count all friendships as a blessing,those that change with us for the better and those that have choosen other paths; either way you can't stand in the way of: change.
Faith does go beyond the church, it starts in the heart and mind and remains there, the church helps to nurture our faith.
Man HIV is real and thank you for bringing the information to the main stream, HIV is very real and our brothas need to realize that because HIV doesn't appear to be going anywhere anytime soon. That must have been somewhat hard to come out to you by disclosing their HIV status.
2007 may not have afforded you all the things you wanted, it certainly seems to still have been productive for you. I sense you have some pain and disappointment. It will certainly be a better year for you this year (2008), and do understand it is okay to keep a few secerts for yourself, that is why you haven't shared your pain with your readers(friends).

Anonymous said...

you'd better believe it's real, but I think for every 2 freinds

that tell you, there's another 5 that don't tell you, and another 5

who don't tell you because they don't know.