Usually I am... but it works for me so I guess that makes it right.
But here is the situation. My cousin is getting married this summer in Hawkins, Texas. Yes Hawkins not Houston. Where is Hawkins? I have no idea. When I was asked if I was going I said probably not... I already had a vacation lined up for late August early September and I am unsure if I would be able to afford to go to this as well. (UMMMM remember recession)
So my mother was disappointed that I wasn't going to go. I told her about all of my previous plans and asked why must people get married in these small towns that cost a fortune to get to. I understand it is their wedding but the can't be shocked when people can't make it.
So am I wrong?
I will probably make an effort to go... not a huge effort but a little one. I just googled and saw Hawkins is 2 hours from my hotel in Dallas... definitely wont be making a huge effort.
14 comments:
no you're not wrong.
it's a nice thought for you to even contemplate going, but to extend your funds during this economic struggle isn't wise on your part. sometimes it's better to wrap up your intent in a gift if other accommodations can't be made. and personally i think sending a gift, if you even want to go that route, is just a good as if you were to go.
boy take your ass to the wedding...
wait 2 hours from dallas in the middle of nowhere... nevermind.
You are not wrong, for all the reasons you stated.
You are not blessed with infinite financial resources. You have to budget your expenses and time off. It is not an easy place for you to personally get to and you already have plans. IF you feel the need to smooth potentially hurt feelings, send a gift.
Does that mean you're with The Melrose?
if you mean the melrose hotel a kimpton property no i am not
I don't think it matters if any of us think you are wrong. The question is do you think you are wrong? If you do think you are wrong than go to the wedding. If you do not, and I think you do not think you are wrong then stick to your orignal plans. Of course for politesse sake you could just send them a gift and call it a day. Everynew couple needs a toaster after all.
No, you are not wrong and if you don't want to go that is reason edamnough. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone!
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nah you have plans...I am sure they are not gonna work the ceremony around your trip so why should work your trip around their ceremony?
How close are you to your cousin? The nature of our relationship would be the deciding factor. The fact that you already had plans also complicates the matter. As I'm learning, everybody is not going to like the personal decisions we make. They'll get over it. I would at least send a small gift.
Nah, I don't think you're wrong and I'm with Kyon, send them a gift.
I'm not close to my fam yet if a cousin of mine was getting hitched, I'd simple send them a gift (too many family members to try to attend every last event).
I wonder if they'd do the same for your wedding ...
Hell no you aren't wrong for not going. While they have every right to wed wherever they want, they should expect that in this economy folks are gonna be taking 2 planes, a car and a horse and buggy to get to it.
The only thing that matters is if the BRIDE and GROOM show up...lol. And other than that the only thing important to them are the gifts anyway. Send a gift and enjoy your vacation man.
Don't you hate it when your parent makes it seems like the end of the world if you don't show up to a family event? So true- they will get over it.
You cannot be everywhere and at every EVENT. Send a nice gift.
The wed couple Rarely have time to even spend time with most guests. Support is important but if you feel you are over-extending then it's not a good idea to go.
Being from a small town myself, I say HELL NO YOU'RE NOT WRONG! My last trip home cause me $754. Our families need to realize that planes travel in both directions. Besides, you have plans as you've stated and this is a recession. Judging from the tone of your post, I take it you and this cousin aren't even close. Afterall, you don't even know where Hawkins is... lol
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