Yeah I meant to finish this last week but... it was a busy week and an even more eventful weekend.
So another part of the conversation that I was apart of had to do with a particular person that me and my friends know purposely misstating the truth. To break this down without going into a lot of pointless details A and B dated for a very brief point in time. A and C had been friends for years. D goes and tells A that C and B are now dating. A is now mad at B. While there was no truth to the lie... it left me wondering How long do you have to date someone before they are officially off limits to your friends?
The two in the situation above dated less than 6 months... hell probably less than 4. While I shouldn't have been, I was quite shocked that someone that had dated such a short period of time was now off limits to his friend.
I look at dating as the annoying dance you do several times as you find the one that fits as your partner. And considering how the kids date... half of the potential dating pool would be nixed for your friends by your early 30s. I personally can only think of 2 people that would be totally off limits to my friends and one is now deceased.. and both of those people I was in a committed long term relationship.
While some of the people I have dated in the past have been complete mistakes (yeah you know who you are). I have dated some people that were great guys we just had bad timing. And if one of those people could make a true friend of mine happy... I say go for it.
I mean if I was truly wanted that person for myself... wouldn't I be working on that relationship, instead of placing it on a shelf like a collector's item??