Why Do You Ask My Opinion... when you don't want it?!?

One thing any of my close friends can tell you about me is that I am consistently me. I am who I am... no pretense. You ask my opinion... I give it to you regardless of if it is what you want to hear or need to hear. People that know me... know if you don't want to hear my what I have to say leave me out of the conversation.

So a friend of mine, we shall call him Blue, has been dating Q for about a year and a half. Seeing we all knew each other before they started dating when I found out they were getting together I told them both I didn't think it was a good idea. (I knew both of them better then they knew the other and was privied to some information the others weren't)

For the past 7 months, it has been one thing or another. And now they are both in this relationship for appearance and because they have been together for 18 months and don't want to say it's over. For 7 months, I have mostly remained quiet and just listened. (maybe a few comments here and there)

So last Tuesday Blue calls me to tell me that the past few times they have tried to have sex... Q couldn't "keep it up". He rants and raves for 10 good minutes... and then I finally interrupt and ask him have you ever thought maybe it's you. It amazes me that people always want to blame the fact that someone else can't satisfy them sexually for one reason or another instead of thinking maybe you just weren't doing it for them.

Well I haven't heard from him since Tuesday, and since I know he reads this blog I just want to say Blue... I was just offering another opinion doesn't mean I am right... I just wanted you to see another side of the issue.

And to everyone else I know that reads this... if you don't want my opinion... stop coming to me with your issues. Damn after all these years you should know I am an opinionated fucker!

16 comments:

colinnyc said...

i think i will totally agree with you on this one... you have always been straight and forward with me. and i know who to go to for an honest opinion.

Anonymous said...

ive always wondered why people always blame the other person when it comes to impotence.

twinston1911 said...

but your advise was right, it might be him, and he needed to here that especially since they are having problems in there relationship, hell i know the times when i was having problems with the guys i was dating, sex was the last thing i wanted, i'd get more pleasure from wacking the rod, lol,

The Districtrazzi Blogger said...

Yes, you indeed always tell the truth. I would add that people need to be honest about whether they just want an ear for venting or if they need advice. There's a big difference.

Your friend should understand. Then again, I'm not sure how he'll feel once he comes here...lol

The CPA Doc said...

I agree with Districtrazzi...folk need to tell you what they want. AND...if they know u, then they should know what they'll get b4 they even ask.

At any rate, someone had to "break the news" and make him wake up. Whether the problem is him or not, they need to step into reality and decide if the relationship is REAL or like you said just for show.

The truth hurts sometimes...but it's what you ultimately need!

C. Baptiste-Williams said...

i have several friends that come just to talk and to vent but they are sure to let me know ahead of time. And if I feel like being bothered then i listen.

jerzey_reality said...

I'm the same way..when my friends come ot me I tell them exactly what I'm thinking...sometimes they wanna hear it...other times they don't...but either way its gonna be the truth....and i would expect the same from them

thegayte-keeper said...

speak THE truth

Anonymous said...

I enjoy reading the majority of your blogs, but I must say that you come off as negative and bitter at times.

i guess Im Blue said...

ok so you may have been right this time... now take this down before i smack you!

The Voice of DemondMaurice said...

There is a way to express your opinion without seeming as though you know the situation better than those involved. I have this problem sometimes because I have experienced more than most of my friends, but I am learning to be gentle. On the flip side, friends should expect nothing less than the truth out of love.

Anonymous said...

i think you friends should accept you as you are if they cant deal with it then they shouldnt be your friends. not that we are great friends but seeing we have known each other for a few years.. i appreciate you for who you are and know what to expect to some extent.

Darius T. Williams said...

U said it the right way. If they don't want to know your opinion...then don't ask.

Anonymous said...

before... When I had friends... I would always ask... DO YOU WANT MY SUPPORT OR OPINION???? and we would proceed from there..... Now...I dont really wanna hear it..... cause in the end...IM THE BAD GUY....and MY MEAT aint LIMP.... sorry... got carried away... AROMALE!!!!

That Dude Right There said...

Keeping it honest is something that you and I have in common.

One Ten said...

Churrccchhh!!! This is my first time coming through and I love your blog man, keep it up.

With regards to this situation, you did the right thing by keeping it all the way real. A lot of time's people NEED to hear the honest to God truth but don't WANT to nor can they handle it...

...but a good friend will appreciate one that DOES keep it 100% (in my case, 110%) and doesn't sugar coat anything.