Courteous or Controlling??


So this weekend started off pretty decent. Dinner date with Mr. SprintPCS (that makes 2)... and Saturday I spent the day with Mr. Iraq (more to come on him later). After a long day of rollercoasters and long lines at Six Flags we chilled at his house watching tv and just talking.

In the midst of our conversation, he mentioned that he was going to cook dinner on Sunday and invited me to come over to eat. Me not ever passing up a free meal, especially home cooked, agreed.

Fast forward to Sunday around 12noon I sent him a text confirming dinner and to see what time... no response.

At 3pm, while out with another friend, I still hadn't heard back from him, so I called and got no answer. So I played it no mind and just went on with my Sunday. So around 5pm he sends me a text asking me what am I up to?? So I tell him I am out with a friend and thanks for getting back to me 5 hours later. He then goes into this long tyrade about how he has "no obligation to when he has to contact me... and notices that I am controlling and that pushes people away." I respond to him saying I was just trying to be courteous since we allegedly had made plans. (a little background... he often responds to texts messages late or "didn't get them")

So am I being controlling or was I just being too courteous?

8 comments:

Alex said...

: )

Cocoa Rican said...

Whew… you remind me a lot of myself when I was younger…then again, that might be me now. Truth is, it’s rude not to return calls or return calls late – especially when the person calling is confirming/verifying a scheduled date. You’re not wrong for being annoyed and quite honestly, since there appears to be a history of unresponsiveness with this man, it stands to reason that you shouldn’t put much weight in dates set with him. That said, I always come back to my trusted theory: We’re never too busy for those folks we REALLY want to spend time with. So pa, here’s the deal… After texting and calling him, when he responded with a text asking, “What are you up to?” The PC thing was to respond, “Out with a friend. Everything alright? I hit you up earlier.” Now I don’t know if this would’ve garnered a better response, but it certainly would give this fool a way out… which is what he wanted anyway. I don’t think this is a question of being courteous or controlling. It’s really a matter of, like myself, you not being too good at dealing with bullshit. You’re not wrong…you’re not controlling… you’re not courteous… you’re just REAL. Sometimes keepin’ it real just rubs fake-ass nikkas the wrong way. Now back to that warm and fuzzy place… maybe with Mr. Sprint?

ShawnQt said...

You was not in the wrong, so many times have I gotten the same treatment... people think that, and I don't know why!

Sometimes you just have to let those people be free, and date someone that really is invested in your time.

lj said...

Well damn if wanting a reply to a text or phone call when you've made plans with someone...guess I'm controlling

Naijadude said...

Well I think its reasonable/responsible of you to follow up on a plan. Either of the party should contact for a gentle reminder and you were the one that did so, I didnt see anything pushy with that!

twinston1911 said...

ok charles, that was just rude, he invited you to dinner, than he did not return your text confirming dinner, (that he invited you too) than he calls u controlling when u call him out on not returning your text/call on a dinner he invited you too, wow, no wonder im not in any hurry to date again lol. anyhow, delete his number NOW. And to aswer your question NO that is not controlling

Trent Jackson said...

He's obviously not serious and clearly unstable...

I don't get it...but, not to pass judgement cause you know I love you...end the texting, just give his ass a COURTESY CALL...well thats irrelevant at this point.

But a call...definitely sets the tone

That Dude Right There said...

Your return comment was certainly dripping with sarcasm. Was that really necessary? All you had to do was just say that you were out with a friend. Hell, I would have had an attitude with you also.