The Lay A Way Plan is when you meet someone that you are really interested in. They are attractive, have things going for themselves, they make you happy, and you could see yourself dating them; however you are not ready to commit to just one person. So what you do is you date them from a distance. You hang out continuously and even spend evenings, nights, and weekends together. However you are still hanging out and meeting other people, while keeping that other person close enough to hopefully develop into something but far away enough to keep all commitments at bay for now.
C. Baptiste-Williams at 3:31 PM Labels: relationships, The Laws
So me and a new acquaintance were having a conversation last night about many things and of course our experiences dating was a part of that conversation.
He was telling me a story about his recent dating situations and how one person he was dating refused to tell him that he was dating other people as well. I commented that, "Oh he had you on the Lay A Way Plan". Which prompted me to have to explain:
The Lay-A-Way plan may work for some. But the problem with it is... that most of the times people don't want to admit they are on this plan and forget how small this world really is. It usually blows up in their face and they are left there looking like a scheming liar... when all of this could have been prevented by just saying, you are dating other people or committing.
But, at least in the gay community, people seem to subscribe to the whole grass is greener mentality. Someone may find someone who is quite a good match but yet not perfect... so you continue your quest for Mr./Mrs. Perfect, instead of working on and developing what you have into the perfect relationship. I am by no means saying that anyone should settle, but if the person is a good match but not perfect... maybe it is something that can be worked on or maybe it is you that is not perfect. God knows I have definitely been the imperfect one many times. And who ever said you are Mr./Mrs. Perfect's perfect match.
Being upfront and honest is the only sure way to maintain friendships and relationships. So if you got someone on the Lay-A-Way plan... be careful that this doesn't come back to bite you in the ass... you could miss out on something really good.