The Laws: Why Did I Do That?

Have you ever been driving home (riding the train or the bus) from a jump off’s house that you met at the club, online, or if you are in Atlanta just about anywhere, and thought to yourself “Why the hell did I do that?”

Once again I was having a conversation with a friend. He called me as he was heading back to his side of Atlanta after a recent hook up with some random guy off Men4Now.com. When I picked up the phone obviously annoyed that he was interrupting my show, instead of an hello I got, “Why the fuck did I just do that?” He went into telling me how he had been talking to this guy online for the past few weeks and they finally decided to meet up and check the “vibe” (for those who do not know that is code for to see if you really look like or better than your picture) and “chill” (that is code for pretend to watch TV and be interested in your idle conversation and corny flirts for an hour… then have sex and leave immediately). He said the guy did look like his picture but his conversation was awful and there was no real attraction but they “messed” (code for I don’t want my friend to think less of me so I will just leave it at that) around anyway. He said the sex was mediocre and could have been better off saving his $2.95 a gallon and jacking off at home.

I am sure most people have had a similar experience. As of lately I have made a conscious effort to refrain from random jumpoffs, not that I think that I am above or denying the fact that I have in the past. It is just that I see that they are usually a waste of time and effort. For me this means the intensity and quantity of my self gratification has increased greatly. I can't even remember the last time I had sex... (damn i hope that didn't offend anyone with that one)


But my sure fire remedy if you don't have a consistent jumpoff and you think you will be tempted by getting online or going to the bar, is to satisfy that instant urge by handling it yourself... usually that will work for now unless you just have a high drive and if that's you, you need to invest in finding that one person in your black book you can always count on.

13 comments:

Soldier said...

" hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ", right ?

What about the danger of a very horny man ? lol
it's crazy how for a while it can make you blind/deaf/possessed

control is the key !
and oh, yeah self gratification as long as u now how to keep it entertaining
(wink)

Anonymous said...

i have sooooo been there before... im lovin the laws man

imnotgoingtotell said...

lol yeah i had a 4some that turned out to be a WHY DID I JUST DO THAT moment, during the ole session i was like, what hell im i doing, this is so not me, i like all the attention, dont be suckin me than suckin on him and him and him lol, so needless to say, when it was over, it was over for me at least, never again, i hope lol,
good post CBW

KennonPurdy said...

That's excatly what that whore gets.... Of course sex with a random stranger is going to be bad....Ewwww! and he better get tested while he is at it, no telling what eles he picked up!

ATL4Life said...

kennon your statements are so damn ignorant. how do you know dude didnt have safe sex with the guy.

hell ive gotten an std from the dude I was dating for years... so just because it was random doesnt mean the sex has to be bad or that u are going to get an std. grow up dude.

Corey Keith said...

We've all been there, in some capacity or another, before... I am also loving the rules!

Kensilo said...

Man... I am sooo glad that I am in a committed relationship. I know what you mean hookups seems the perfect thing from the time you leave the house to the end of the encounter. Then all of a sudden reality checks in!! Then there comes the regrets. I done it once never to do again.

manifest said...

when brothers understand that sex is sacred and that when engaging in sex you are intermingling with spirits and souls, brothers will have to wise up. the six pack, the pecs, the biceps, the phalanx and the orifice; all a facade. go beneath the surface. soul to soul, that is true lovemaking. no regrets.

life said...

I usually take myself through the process first, so I don't get caught up, because I know how I would feel after everything went down. Plus, sex is too sacred.

Darius T. Williams said...

Ha...we've all been there. We all go there still - it's just that the older you get, the more mature you become, the less you slip up.

Mr. Jones said...

Been there, done that, prefer not to do it again. I thought I had a consistent jump off, but after not hearing from him in like 3 days, Im starting to get the picture.

Don't cry for me tho, nobody takes care of me like me.

That Dude Right There said...

Reddmann, you ain't never lied on this one. We have all done it and some of us will do it again. But to paraphrase what Darius said above, with age (should) come(s) wisdom. No more random or anonymous hookups for me either.

Mr. Jones said...

Honestly, I think after awhile, you just get tired of randomness. For me, I needed more than just the sex. I need intimacy. Sex is a byproduct of intimacy...the converse of that statement is true.