"The only thing worse than no money is new money."

- Thaddius Williams I


So Sunday evening, my stalker (I really got to work on a new name for him) invited me over for dinner with two of his friends and to watch the basketball game. So I grab my fitted, throw on an American Apparel vneck, and some jeans and head over to his place. I called myself getting there a little early to help out and learn about his two friends but as I walk in, I see others had the same plan. As soon as I was introduced to A and B, the questions started.

I often tell the story of when I first moved to DC and whenever I would meet someone there were three questions that they would always ask: 1) what do you do, 2) where do you live, and 3) do you own or rent.

Their next four questions in a very condescending tone and my vague answers were: 1) where do you work.... "a hotel management company" 2) what do you drive... "a semi gas guzzler", 3) aren't you friends with Tim... "i know a couple Tims, so yes", 4) where did you go to school... "for which degree". After the last question B made a comment about me being very cryptic... "not cryptic just private."

Usually I would have answered all the questions with no problem but their tone just rubbed me the wrong way but since they were friends with Stalker who had been in the kitchen the entire time I tried to loosen up and enjoy the evening. The entire dinner consisted of A and B trying to top each other in one thing or another... if B was looking at a new BMW... A knew something about the specifications that didn't compare to his new Benz. If A had a date with a financial analyst... B had a date with a bank exec. This went on and on over dinner and annoyed the shit out of me.... Stalker saw my face and mouthed across the table he was sorry as he diverted the conversation to the game.

By the end of the game I knew everything they had purchased over the past week and how much it costs and where they got it.

I always remember my paternal grandfather Thaddius always says "wealth speaks for itself." And he made sure we knew the difference between possessing wealth and being rich.

I don't quite see how stalker fits in with this crew... from the short amount of time we have hung out he didn't seem to be anything like his friends. But other than that the weekend was cool and pretty chill.

14 comments:

Bernie said...

Lawd, how shallow can people be? Their whole sense of self is caught up in their possessions. I wonder what would happen if those things got repossessed?

celeste said...

ok thats a mess... thad was right on that one

Cash S. said...

Clearly they are new money.

fuzzy said...

I really would of been over that dinner quickly! People wish to be beter all of the time. Dare I say, its human nature?

On the questions... you answered those questions perfectly! You gave an answer, but you didn't reveal too much about yourself to people you owe nothing to! Especially when the vibe is wrong!

bLaQ~n~MiLD said...

Ignorance is always the loudest to speak. Better you than me because I'm not big on being interrogated.

~Damnit!

Anonymous said...

You can tell a lot about a person by the company he keeps. How did he behave in their presence? Was he any different than when he was aloe with you?

stalker4now said...

o wow before you throw me under the bus, and all the commentors run over me. My friends, A & B, have been good friends of mine since Freshman year, they are by far not perfect but those are my boys. we all have friends that can be quite annoying but we look past their small flaws and look at the greater good (ie your Tim).

and im mad you didnt comment on my cooking!!!

C. Baptiste-Williams said...
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C. Baptiste-Williams said...

lol @ stalker4now... im still thinking of a name gosh

and yes your cooking was absolutely (insert sarcasm here)

Anonymous said...

Yes yes yes...your paternal Grandfather is sooo right..."wealth speaks for itself"....You do not need to say a word! Sounds like they are one foot out the ghetto...

Bullet Proof Soul said...

I agree with stalker4now. I have known my friends since we were all broke college students playing spades and sucking on Ramen Noodles on a Friday night. Now years later with money, you still see the same people underneath all the new money.

But I love your responses. LOL!!

Darius T. Williams said...

LOL - i work for a hotel management company too - don't you just love acquisitions?

Anonymous said...

I don't know if they are new money, but, would place a wager that they are in debt up to the eyeballs. Talk of money is just tacky, just bring me a little blue box on the first date, that will speak volumes.

That Dude Right There said...

I'm glad that you held your tongue. I was expecting to hear how you had gotten them together!