The List

Several years ago me and a friend made a list. This list started out as a class project of where we saw ourselves in 10 years. While creating that list we started talking about relationships and the respective men we were both dating at the time. She went on to ask me if you could create your ideal man... not Mr. D (at this time in my life I thought he was, so a lot of the list reflects that)... but your ideal man what 10 things would he be... she recently emailed me my list...

1. Must be comfortable in their own skin. White, Black, Brown or Tan.... Gay or Bisexual.... Muscular, Slim or Average... just comfortable being a man.

2. Educated... not always about degrees and prestigious universities.

3. Employed... not a job a career!! There is a difference.

4. Sex Appeal... hell I gotta want it. And appeal is more than how you look... it is what you make me think.

5. A connection with God... don't have to be on the deacon board but faith and belief is necessary.

6. Must have been hurt once... nothing like loving someone who has lost love before.

7. Aggressive and Out Going... I do not like overly passive people.. speak up for what the hell you want.

8. Wants to grow... and grow together.

9. Believes that romance is still alive.

10. A Sense of Humor... make me laugh when I don't want to but need to.


Almost 9 years later and not much has changed about this list... Thanks Alicia!!