Dating In Atlanta...

My good girlfriend, Nicolle, was here visiting this past weekend from DC and of course she wanted an update on everything going on in the ATL... well after cluing her in on the job, the apartment, my bestfriend... the conversation went to dating in Atlanta.

After reading my good good friend Kool's page and the 200 dates he has had in the past 2 weeks, I decided to blog on dating in Atlanta.

I guess I will work backwards... I started talking to Scorpio weeks before moving to Atlanta. The conversation was always very platonic. I told him from the very beginning that I was interested in someone in Atlanta... and was trying to see if it would develop into a relationship or just a friendship. He was very respectful of that. Well after talking for over 2 months now on IM and on the phone and saying we should get together and hang out... well we finally did Monday. We hung out in Little 5 Points and had pizza (might I add the best calzone I have had in ages) then went walking up the very eclectic collection of shops that has everything from American Apparel to grunge stores. The conversation kept flowing so we decided to walk around the East Atlanta neighborhood as well... he lived nearby so the evening ended with us sitting around at his spot talking, laughing and watching tv till I noticed how late it was and decided to start my journey back up to the north side. In a cell convo while walking around, I heard him say he was on a date.... I was like wow ok didn't know that but cool. Very platonic nothing happened but I developed a new friend.

He called me the next morning and asked me if I wanted to check a movie out. After checking my quite empty calendar I said yes and last night we saw An Inconvenient Truth, the Al Gore movie about global warming. Finally someone inviting me the new to Atlanta guy out to do something or to hang out. He gets mad points for not being passive and choosing a movie that was thought provoking.

Then there is the Dominican... Kool brought him by my spot one night we were playing spades. He needed a hook up on a hotel room in Puerto Rico so we exchanged numbers and I told him to call me Monday and I'd handle it. Well that call led us to having lunch every day that week before his trip and a couple evening dinners and hanging out as well. Now he is only 24 which would normally be a turnoff when it comes to seriously dating someone but he seemed to be mature and about business. Well after his trip... the focus turned from me to his roommate and him feeling left out. The last straw for me was when I got back from my Cabin trip... i suggested we go to dinner or something... and he asks if his roommate could hang out as well. We are still cool and see each other frequently but he took a step back from number 1 position to just a contender.

So speaking of Cabin trip there is OoooNotSupposedtoHappen. Well I met this fool weeks before while playing volleyball in Piedmont. Well I couldn't stand his attitude and he was short... very much Kool's style not mine, now that I think of it but I digress... well during the trip to the cabin, me, him and another guy stayed up till 4am talking about everything. From that point on I realized he wasn't so bad. We have hung out twice since being back.. he is a basketball fan so we caught game 3 and 4 together. Nice people but only on the friendship level I think for now.

Then there is KravinATL... well I don't know what to really say about that. We talk sporadically and is still very special but I guess the lack of distance has changed alot. But definitely always a contender in my heart.

Like other ATL people who shall remain nameless I have met a few people recently... unlike that person there have been only a few dates and I am unsure of what if anything will come from it. Why are people so indecisive and passive. I need someone who is gonna speak up go for what they want... shit I am tired of being the one hunting prey. But I will say the life of a socialite can be hard work!!

14 comments:

That Dude Right There said...

I thinking dating real dating for the gay black man is dead. I had a dreaded ordeal last week myself.
Now I can't decide if I want to continue dating or give it up and stay single.

Anonymous said...

ok talking about a melodramatic comment...

colinnyc said...

oooo a whole rack of new mens.. what happened to the DC ones?

Anonymous said...

between u and Kool is there anyone else to date in Atlanta

kool said...

have you been to atlanta? yes, there are plenty of homos for everyone. even you.

ReddMann said...

ummm ive only gone out with 2 people... i cant speak for others... but like kool said there are plenty of homos... only in atlanta can u get a date on the way to the bank, at the bank, at the grocery store next door and on your way back home..

Da Jardin said...

Atlanta is the home of passive men..., every once in a while there's one that leaves you standing breathing heavily internally...

Although I'm like you...I'm usually the aggressor...

Be encouraged...for dates are learning experiences!

Anonymous said...

Maybe they're passive because they're cautious of your temper and never know what will tick you off, and if you're used to being an aggressor how you can expect them to change as quickly as you have.

ReddMann said...

what the hell does temper have to do with... taking the initiative to invite someone to dinner or a movie or taking the first kiss... but yet your anonymous comment proves yet again what i am talking about.... passive and timid.

Valentino said...

I always say that ATL is a candy store...and hmmm...

Clay said...

the alias names kill me! lol

4GOTTEN1 said...

Dating in Atlanta is always and adventure...a crazy sometimes borderline dangerous adventure but and adventure none the less.

"The life of a socialite can be hard work!!" I love that line.

"B" said...

ok UGH!!! an da hell with anonymous an those stank ass comments about my good Judy's

antneya said...

I loved ATL when I visited cant wait to be back later this year. I havent heard too much about the dating scene..it seems interesting.