Being Gay and Having Religion Part 1

I say part one because I know that there is no way I can cover everything that I need to say, want to say or can think to say right now.

However after visiting Intellifreak's blog, I was exposed to this Yahoo news article, Atlanta Has Become Mecca for Black Gays. Well I use to live in Atlanta, so from the title I wasn't expecting to learn anything new. In the article, the very attractive David Malebranche, a physician who teaches at Emory University, said many black lesbians and gays settle in Atlanta because they "feel ostracized from the white gay community because of racism. People will migrate to a city where there is a lot of black people in general, and then within that you find your niche."

Dr. David Malebranche

But again none of that was new news to me seeing I once lived there. What was surprising to me were the thoughts and comments by Bishop Eddie Long of New Birth Missionary Baptist Church. In my Atlanta days I attended Bishop's Long megachurch before it was quite mega... when it was still meeting in a closed shopping center before the new megafacility was even built. The entire time I attended his church I never once new or heard his objections to gays and gay marriage. I often recall and share a fond memory of a service one Sunday....

Me and two of my friends were sitting their praising and worshiping along with the rest of the masses, slightly tired from hanging out the night before. Service had been going on for at least 20 minutes, when she walked in. Heads were turning and the men were gawking... and the kids went to whispering. As she took her seat, 2 rows in front of us with who I came to find out later was her birth mother, I knew this was going to be one ole service. The person that had caught the attention of nearly every man in service was none of ther than the transgender legend of Jasmine Bonet. As we stood in prayer, we watched the eyes of the men around us... and how they examined and lusted after Jasmine right there in service. We could only say if they only knew.

Anyway I digress, what made me want to blog this morning was the fact that a few of my friends in Atlanta are still going to New Birth. Even after their pastor and church has made a stance against them. Which reminds me of Greater Mt. Calvery Church here in Washington. The pastor and copastor have preached against and bashed homosexuals on more than several occassions.
I recall the one and only time I ever stepped foot in that Traxx with a sermon, the copastor Susie asked for men volunteers for the their mentoring or tutoring program, can't recall now, but she then went on to say "We need real men to help these kids... not any of you other men." obviously hinting to the huge gay population within the church. When she finally began her sermon her bashing continued... and all around me and all in the choir stand these homos were saying their Amens. On my way to my truck after the service right on the front steps of the church, I was approached by one of the male members asking me what was I getting into after service.
But please do not attack this church or any other church like this because the homos I have come in contact with will defend their church and gaybashing ministers to the end.

While I have grown up in church and understand that you must read the Bible and have a personal relationship with God... I have also learned that you can't believe 100% of anything that comes out of any man's mouth. But I have also learned that I shouldn't support those who do not support me. Can someone explain to me the rationale of staying in churches that preach out against you? Can someone explain to me the rationale of staying in churches that offer healing to your homosexual affliction? Are we that pressed for inclussion that we subject ourselves to unecessary treatment? Does the Bible say, "Judge not... unless you talking about homos"?

7 comments:

Valentino said...

Well most us have grown up with " the church" and believe everything that it says...sadly alot of those men do believe they are sinners damned to hell, abominations and all that other hatred...so when a preacher is speaking out against them they take it like its deserved...I too have more thoughts on this...sidebar later...

Jamal K. Franklin said...

Mr. Reddmann,

Good perspective! But, I think people attend ceratin churches for certain reasons. A good reason is people feel comfortable and I don't care who you are, comfortability feels damn good. So, it doesn't matter what's going on around them, it doesn't matter if the preacher is sleeping around, or if the money ain't being used right, or even if the ministries are ineffective...it a Sister Susie or Brother Ben is comfortable...then ain't nothing changing that. That's a blog within its self. Reminds me of my grandmother Madea. She once told me, "if folk are comfortable, don't touch them - pretty soon their asses will get numb and they'll be forced to get up and move."

Coming Into Reality,
-Jamal

DizYaBoy said...

Man ... you've only begun to touch the tip of the iceberg. Whew ... this is such a sensitive topic.

Can't wait to read part II.

Hollambeeee said...

we are acquainted with oppression...and we become comfortable with it...so we don't challenge it...

i can't blame gay folks for remaining in oppressive religious communities because 1) the viable alternative hasn't been proposed to many and 2) because there is a great deal of personal emotional pain that comes from changing your thought pattern...

when all you hear is that your sexuality is against God from birth, it is VERY difficult to all-of-the-sudden believe that you are of worth to God...

Clay said...

my blog talks a lot about the church and black people. i think people need to look at the role of the church from a historical prespective -- this is the same institution that was the major tool in the deracination of black people/africans. yet so many of us follow it with no questions ... in Latin culture Santeria is prevalent ... in Caribbean culture indinegous religions are extremely alive ... however, Black Americans seem to follow a religious supercult and do not seem to look for anything different .. it's disturbin to me and if we continue to follow a European state structure there will be continous strife ... James Baldwin once "I never felt like a totally free human being because i was raised a Christian."

Leonardo said...

I am just curious how someone who is a Christian says it is gay bashing when a preacher says the Bible speaks against homosexuality; it does. Jesus himself was quite outspoken against sin. He wasn't tolerant at all of sin. He has standards. I try to be nice and accepting of homosexuals, but not of their overt sin (the sin of homosexuality). The same way I do of my heterosexual friends who are doing something that the Bible speaks clearly against such as an extramarital affair.

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