So as I was walking back to my office after the 11am showing of the Sex and the City movie (shush it was a slow day at the office and the Georgetown movie theater is only a block away), after replaying some of the quotes in my head... I stopped in the middle of K Street to wonder...

Does Mr. Big have a Mr. Big?

For those of those who aren't familiar with Sex and the City and who the hell Mr. Big is, this will catch you up... Mr. Big meets Carrie (if you don't know who that is just skip to the next post) in the very first episode of the series and gets his nickname not because of anything sexual but because he is a wealthy business man on his way to being the next Donald Trump. After running into each other over and over again during the first few episodes the two begin a on and off relationship until the series finale six seasons later.

Mr. Big is totally emotionally unavailable and a commitment and intimacy phobe. And these issues cause several breakups and the start of several relationships in between their madness. But there is a chemistry and a love that brings the two back together time and time again.

So we know Mr. Big has his Carrie... his true love that seems to understand him and even when they lived on separate coasts their sexual chemistry seems to remain the unspoken storyline and their friendship never remains strictly platonic. To me Carrie seems to be that hopeless romantic that needs the love, attention, and protection that Big could give if he wasn't just always out of reach, but yet she seems to always be there ready when he will ever be.

So I wonder does or did Big have the one that he loved but was not ready or maybe just not able to be that one?

The thing I miss the most about my former career in event management was all the travel. I use to be on the road to some city somewhere at least once a month and often up to 12 days a month. But the new J-O-B only has me travelling much less than I would desire. Even my own personal travel has suffered as of late... but I am about to work on that.

Seeing that I haven't been to New York since relocating back to DC this past fall... I am over due for a trip up there and SoHo is overdue abusing my Visa. So I just booked my room and will be booking my train ticket later for the last weekend in June... which happens to be NYC Pride weekend... definitely looking forward to that parade. But I will not be walking from the Grand Hyatt on 42nd to Christopher St with a few stops in between like I did last time with my boy Tim and crew. I hate that my friend Kris left NYC... I was always up for a quick weekend getaway when he was there. Now I only know people that always come to DC to stay with me but have excuses when I want to go up... had to end that quickly.

Later in the summer I will be venturing out to LA or Vegas to kick it with my best friend and of course a year wouldn't be complete without a trip back to St. Kitts.

OK back to work...

Fox News jokes about Obama being assassinated

At minute 1:30 Liz Trotta makes a joke about killing both Osama and Obama "if we could".

Please email Fox and let them know that their Republican slanted news has gone too far once again. yourcomments@foxnews.com

Oh Morehouse...

I was quite surprised to be reading the paper online and see that Morehouse College was graduating its first white valedictorian in its 141 years of existence. Joshua Packwood grew up in a poor neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri and told CNN that he had attended a predominantly black high school, and that trouble within his own family led him to live for a time with the family of a black friend. Joshua turned down a full scholarship to Columbia University to attend Morehouse because he had become interested in African-American studies. He said his experience at the college had been overwhelmingly good, and CNN described him as popular among his classmates. However this post isn't about Joshua and how some people didn't feel it was right that a person who earned and maintained a 4.o should be valedictorian because of his race at the historically black college...


This post is about yet another surprising article I was sent this week. The LA Times' article Morehouse College faces its own bias -- against gays, was quite a surprise to me because while recently living in Atlanta I had began to think that the school was finally becoming more progressive in its thinking. Especially with the number of gay students that attend Morehouse. To me it began to become a joke any young college student I met when I first moved back to Atlanta whether it was at the park, at a club, at the mall or online they were all students at Morehouse. Even my neighbor that I blogged about a couple times was a gay student at Morehouse.


Anyway this article by Richard Fausset asks the question can a gay man be a Morehouse Man?

AnImBack...

yeah yeah ok shush I have been crazy busy with work for the past two weeks was to work and sleep and eat. But all that is over and I took off today to catch up on sleep but there were a lot of thoughts going through my head over the past two weeks, so I will get them all out now...

• Oooooo R Pissy makes me sick. Defense attorney Sam Adam Jr. said the reason the alleged victim never told the witness she was having a sexual relationship with Kelly was because there wasn't one and "because it's not her on the tape." "Are you asking or telling me?" Jamison shot back. Adam also showed pictures of a shirtless Kelly and asked Jamison how she knew it was his body on the video. "His head was attached to it," she responded, drawing laughter from several jurors. Please go to jail... directly to jail... and do not collect $200.


• No more recaps of Real World. I use to be really into that show but over the years it has lost its appeal to me.


• Butttttttttttt.... my show So You Think You Can Dance is back!!!! Still lusting after that Danny Tidwell.


• I see Hillary is really trying to set herself up for 2012 in case Obama doesn't win in November. All about self.


• Now that McCain has a crazy preacher behind him... maybe we can finally move past Jeremiah Wright.


• Gas prices and the grocery store are kicking my ass!!! I can't even do home delivery grocery because the delivery rates keep going up.


• I think I have deferred my student loan payments as long as humanly possible... I just got my bill for next month.


• The Game was really good this season... lets see if CW gets rid of it too.

Just having a moment...

... my day in court will come one day.

So Usher Wants to be on Bottom...

From SandraRose.com...

In this new track leaked from Usher’s upcoming CD “Here I Stand”, Usher wants you to treat him like he’s your bottom bitch. Is this the “new direction” Usher said his music was going in?

In “Trading Places, Usher sings about switching roles with his date who treats him like a sex object (not unlike the way he treated women before he met Tameka):

You get on top, tonight I’m on the bottom

‘Cause we trading places,

Now put it on me baby ’til I say, ‘ooh wee!’

And tell me to shut up before the neighbors hear me

This is how it feels when you do it like me

We’re trading places

Usher also sings about making the bed up in the morning and fixing breakfast for his date, going shopping so she can drop 6oK on him and “spend it like you really love me”.

Listen: Trading Places

FInally...

My Friday morning breakfast is usually 2 eggos, lite syrup, 2 slices of bacon, an orange, and a glass of orange juice... but this morning I want to have a little grey goose and cranberry to celebrate jury selection in R Pissy's trial.

But just a reminder on why I want this bastard to serve just a little time...

Why R. Kelly Should Go To Court?

Chicago Tribune's story today

Real World 20:3&4

Real World: Hollywood Ep. 3 Where's Joey?


Yet another episode totally consumed with alcohol and drinking. I am just waiting on one of these former roommates hasn't sued MTV yet for turning them into alcoholics. So as they had to the bar roommate Joey finds his former alcoholism at a conflict with the roommate lifestyle. "I can have fun without it as he downs drink number 3," says the fool. So Joey and former stripper Brianna start making out on the dance floor then she turns and kisses some random girl in the club. Only to realize the girl had been doing coke... which she gave up 2 months ago. And then drunk Joey turns into suicidal Joey.... draaaaama.

Since the crew is in Hollywood there will be no job but instead the roommates will be taking improv classes to put on a showcase at the end of the season... "Florals for spring... groundbreaking."

So most of the show was about addictions, drugs, and drinking... but I am sure they will be at a bar in the next episode. Episode 3 and I am already getting bored with this season.

Real World: Hollywood Ep. 4 Joey's Intervention



So the show opens with former stripper Brianna and resident cutie Will heading back to Philly so she can face a warrant for her arrest, as Joey sits at the kitchen table longing to be with her. She isn't out of the door 5 minutes before the female roommates start dogging strippers out.

So as soon as they get to Philly before the boy can even shower... Brianna takes Will to this dive of a strip bar, that looks like it is a double wide or something. As the roommates on the other coast go where..... yep to a bar. Which the night ends with Greg and Joey getting drunk and bringing home 2 unattractive girls to spend the nite.

The show ends with Joey going crazy in his drunken stupor and the producers convincing him to go to rehab for 30 days, which he agrees. Scenes for next week episode includes the roommates out drinking yet again...

No Words: Ride MARTA... It's SMARTA

From Sunday's Washington Post:

Channel Changer
Three Years Ago, Reggie Hudlin Came To Save a Troubled BET. But Has He?

Random Thoughts...

1. Why is Jeremiah Wright more important than the economy, New Orleans, Iraq, and gas prices?

2. So now that AT&T is going to offer the new 3g iPhone for $199 with a 2 year contract... are the $499 people pissed yet? I think I may hold out for the $99 special.

3. If you’re truly ‘safe only,’ then why do you get HIV tests and post the results in your profile?

4. When will people stop looking for Hannah Montanas to raise their kids? Her posing nearly nude is a chance for you to teach your bratty ass kids a lesson.

5. Just when I was about to break out the fatigue shorts and flip flops... winter came back.

6. Anyone know of Spanish lessons in DC for less than $325 a quarter?

7. So You Think You Can Dance???? Guess I will find my new Danny... May 22

8. As if plane tickets weren't already sky high... with the possible consolidation of 4 airlines is only going to make this worse.

9. What was the point of invading Iraq if we weren't going to get cheaper oil? I mean damn you could at least get something out of this stupid war.

10. So happy my bestfriend is coming to visit from Cali next week... I need some time with the person that knows me best.

The NEW LAPD

Remember back in the day getting caught by the LAPD was a sure bet that you would get your ass beat, hopefully a little camera time, maybe a little sympathy outside of your community, and of course a couple sinister smiles from officers that knew they were going to get off.

Well the NYPD has become the new LAPD. In the case of Sean Bell...

“The defendants are not guilty of all charges,” Queens Supreme Court Justice Arthur Cooperman declared. “The burden was on the people to prove guilt beyond a reasonable doubt. Each defendant was assumed to be innocent.” Cooperman said
justification was used as a defense, he had to consider the “mindset of the defendants, not the victims. What the victims did, was more important to resolve the issues at hand than what was in their minds.”

Click here for the full story and back story.

Real World 20:2

Real World: Hollywood Ep. 2 Let's Not Get Ghetto

The second episode was all about two people totally disappointing me. First was the resident cutie Will. I find it incredibly disturbing when someone actively pursues someone that is in a relationship. And Will has done just that, even went as far as asking another roommate to help him get this girl. Out of all the available people in the house and in Hollywood why would you pursue someone you have known for less than a week and truly have no connection with. All I could think of is if he would do this to someone in a relationship... what would he do when he is in one.

The second incident revolved around our southern belle, Kimberly. In the midst of an arguement with stripper/singer Brianna over the number of house guests, Kimberly says, "Let's not get ghetto." I tell you one of the draw backs of pop culture is that it affords people the right to say ignorant shit without even knowing the meaning behind it. Later on as she is discussing the incident with Sarah she makes yet another grand statement, "I don't care where you are from... the most inner city, blackville, you don't act like that" "I didn't mean it as a racial thing."

The drama was later squashed at least for now by the help of none other than Mr. Arrogant himself, Greg. Which I found quite surprisng that the self centered "model" payed that much attention or put that much energy into helping bring two roommates back together at least for now.

Of course the other 30 minutes of the show were all about the roommates partying and drinking. Makes me wonder what the hell the roommates are doing during the day that MTV chooses not to show that.

No Words

What does Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton and Foxxy Brown have in common?

They all will turn church into a photo op.

Real World 20:1

“This is the true story... of seven strangers... picked to live in a house...work together and have their lives taped... to find out what happens when people stop being polite... and start getting real...The Real World.”

Can you believe MTV's ground breaking series the Real World is on its 20th season? Now I haven't watched a full season of the Real World since RW15 Philadelphia... and probably only 12 of the previous 19, but for some reason this commercial for this season caught my attention.

Real World: Hollywood Ep. 1 Welcome To Hollywood

So this season began last night with a new twist. While producers chose 6 of the 7 roommates the last roommate was chosen in an online competition where fans of the site were allowed to vote in the person they wanted to see. And apparently they did a good job because their choice Greg is already rubbing the roommates wrong with his super arrogant persona and the fact he refers to people around him as "peasants", and to women as "associates". Then there is Joey the very muscular Johnnie Bravo look a like... who looks like while he can be deep at times may have some emotional issues. And surprisingly at the age of 24 had never left Illinois until now. Will is by far the most captivating for me. I am a sucker for the smile, but he seems a little pressed seeing he has liked 2 different roommates in the first two days of living in the house. Brianna the stripper and aspiring singer from Philly... already has drama on the first episode because before unpacking she finds out there is a bench warrant for her arrest back in Philly. But Brianna's legal troubles may be the clue to why there are rumors about 2 replacement roommates this season.

Hopefully this season will keep my attention... and hopefully it goes beyond the continuous arguing and constant drinking and partying. I mean damn don't people who live together for 2 months do more than that???

Painting Obama

Tim Toles for the Washington Post

One ole Long Ass Moan

So April's discussion centered around LM Ross' Manhood: The Longest Moan. The book is a story of four high school classmates all on a mission to be stars. Ty the writer, David the dancer, Browny the singer and Face the actor/model; all start in a short lived boy group that breaks up and sends each boy in search of their own fame and manhood. They all find unplanned surprises in a 20 year story that uncover the truths about friendship, trust, lust and sex. The back of the book asks, "In a twenty year span, who among them is destined for true greatness?"

Unfortunately Manhood: The Longest Moan was one ole long ass moan. I never made it past page 171 of a nearly 400 page novel. By page 171 I was not invested in any of the storylines, well maybe the story of Face, but every time I walked past the book I would think, "XX number of days till the meeting... I'll get to it later" And apparently out of the 12 people that made it to our meeting... 10 agreed and the other 2 are cordial with the author. I still never got an answer which of the four made it to greatness.

I don't think the book was bad it just didn't pull me in. Several people said the best part of the book were the last few chapters, to which I responded, I may never know then. Others mentioned that you had to get into the flow of the book and once you did you would love it. So when I asked when this flow began, we all assumed it was after page 171.

I may eventually finish Manhood, but for now I will turn my focus to Sister Souljah's Coldest Winter Ever.

Random Questions...

1. Why does every lil gay boy want to be a model or thinks they are a model?


2. I wonder why my birthday is quickly approaching, this Friday and I am unphased and don't really care?


3. Why do people at church assume that me and my friend I attend with are dating? Why can't people just be friends? Why must people always assume the extreme?


4. How was I convinced to go see Prom Night? Another hour and half of my life I will never remember.


5. OK... why is the Pope trying to hem up my commute on Thursday by holding mass at 830am at the new stadium by my house.


6. I want to get into tennis and spanish lessons this spring/summer. Anyone want to pay?


7. Why does doing favors for friends often bite you in the ass? You thought I was evil before but no more favors... unless it benefits me.


8. Book club "after the show" discussion was quite enlightening... topics of sex and sex practices opened my eyes to some friends I have known for almost 7 years. Do you really know your friends?


9. Are you burned out over this election yet?


10. Why am I not as excited about my pending freedom as I thought I would be?

The Hidden Racisim

A week ago today my Regional Director about the assassination of MLK and how things have and haven't changed in the last 40 years.

Sometimes our opinions flow along the same line and for most of this conversation it did. But what never ceases to amaze me is how some white people really don't have a huge grip on the real reality. Especially when it comes to institutional racism, which is where our opinions separated... not because he didn't agree, but because he didn't realize.We both agreed that yes we have come quite a long way but there is still a long way to go.

To drive home my point... I attempted to give him a few examples of institutional racism:

1. Have you ever noticed when it comes to the traffic report on the news, that they only focus on predominantly affluent or white traffic patterns and neighborhoods. The only time DC news stations even mention Prince George's County is if there is a major accident... even when 270 from Gaithersburg is free and clear.

2. The tying of school funding to their neighborhood property values instead of set rate per student across the board.

3. Or because the terrorist that are believed to have brought down the Trade Center... now never can an Arab American fly on a commercial flight without stares and eyes of wonder.

4. To bring the point home a little closer, I brought up a situation that happened last week when an existing client was reassigned to me because the organization delt with African American athletes. I was told, "I am sure you can get these guys to produce more than what they have in the past." However I don't think there was a malicious intent behind this and let him know that.

I think we have come a long way from April 4, 1968 but I often wonder will we ever live in a colorless society?