tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post3959020318786529944..comments2023-10-28T09:19:22.415-04:00Comments on His Story: "That's my ex...." Part 1C. Baptiste-Williamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16711715068243432712noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-64918892615976477172009-02-20T08:24:00.000-05:002009-02-20T08:24:00.000-05:00I think the number of "ex’s" someone has and the a...I think the number of "ex’s" someone has and the amount of time it takes for them to get those ex’s determines a lot about their character. Often time during the dating phase, I have found that people refer to those they dated as an ex. Which in my opinion shows another flaw. Myself being out for 7 years and having only one ex, I am always spectacle of those with more ex boyfriends than years of dating.Derrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04839834863839591507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-44049874684689315542009-02-16T10:45:00.000-05:002009-02-16T10:45:00.000-05:00I so agree with Joey Bahamas!!I've only had 1 rela...I so agree with Joey Bahamas!!<BR/><BR/>I've only had 1 relationship where I committed all of myself to him. So I only have 1 ex-partner/husband.<BR/><BR/>Now I have had 3 boyfriends, so I call them ex-boyfriend.<BR/><BR/>And I have had plenty of dudes that I dated, so those are ex-dates.<BR/><BR/>Now after saying all of that, when I say "my ex" in coversation, I am only talking about my ex-partner/husband. The rest are referred to as "someone I used to talk to".That Dude Right Therehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05945947593109685871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-59107951792142099482009-02-11T10:14:00.000-05:002009-02-11T10:14:00.000-05:00To me, an "ex" is someone you were seriously commi...To me, an "ex" is someone you were seriously committed to AND they were seriously committed to you, i.e., you were building a life together. An ex-f**k buddy DOES NOT COUNT. <BR/><BR/>Evidence of building a life together includes but is not limited to: 1) the two of you looked each other in the eye at some point and said 'I love you' to each other; 2) the two of you made a verbal 'commitment' to each other; 3) the two of you lived together as a couple; 4) your friends and his friends considered the two of you a couple BECAUSE YOU BOTH TOLD YOUR FRIENDS that you were a couple; 5) family members considered the two of you a couple BECAUSE YOU BOTH TOLD YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS that you were a couple, etc. <BR/><BR/>I realize that # 5 can be tricky BUT love can give you the courage to do things you would not ordinarily do. The one time I was in love I was fearless - I did not care who knew I was gay or that I had a same-sex partner. <BR/><BR/>Anything else and the two of you were just playing around. Just my 2cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-19914852364384907022009-02-11T07:12:00.000-05:002009-02-11T07:12:00.000-05:00I once dated someone for a year. When we broke up,...I once dated someone for a year. When we broke up, I called him my ex. I later found out he was playing my ass the entire time. That said, to call someone your ex, the time spand is debatable in terms of relevancy. To me it's more about the depth of the relationship because people here are quick to say they're married when behind closed doors something totally different is going on...<BR/><BR/>Btw, the mere sight of what's his name urks the hell out of me too. lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-71410992941430479262009-02-10T22:22:00.000-05:002009-02-10T22:22:00.000-05:00I read this blog the other day I wasn't going to c...I read this blog the other day I wasn't going to comment until someone called themselves running down a list of my ex's. OMG! The funny thing is that they were all wrong with the exception of one. I had to really get this person together and inform them that just because you saw me out on a few dates doesn't make that person my ex.<BR/><BR/>There were some people that I spent more time with than others, but I was clear that it was not a relationship.<BR/><BR/>In my eyes you are not considered my ex if we did not come to an understanding and agreement that we were making the investment of time and commitment. Not one without the other.....Hmmmmph!The Voice of DemondMauricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13986650368743074249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-26647700061840695852009-02-10T18:43:00.000-05:002009-02-10T18:43:00.000-05:00An ex is someone you have been in a committed rela...An ex is someone you have been in a committed relationship with for at least 6 mos to a years worth of time.Kyon Saucierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02842634449060165965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-6658353999887156752009-02-10T11:40:00.000-05:002009-02-10T11:40:00.000-05:00I separate the boys I've dated into two categories...I separate the boys I've dated into two categories. You're either an ex-date or an ex-husband. Dates are people that I've gone out with for a while, but there was no future planning, nothing serious. Husbands are the men that I've given a part of my life to...we were planning a future, we considered each others schedules, we spent a considerable amount of time together, almost like a married couple. It works for me...I've only had two husbands...<BR/><BR/>JoeyJoey Bahamashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07900810125389210092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-818418973911043442009-02-09T18:28:00.000-05:002009-02-09T18:28:00.000-05:00An ex is not a hookup, bootycall, f#$! buddy or a ...An ex is not a hookup, bootycall, f#$! buddy or a guy you are dating/dated/seing for a few months. Dating is casual- open.<BR/><BR/>To call someone your Ex, 1) you both have to agree/ state that you both are in a "relationship": 2) at least 1 year of togetherness (sorry time does count in gay life) 3) exclusivity/ monogamy should be a priority.<BR/><BR/> If afer all this it doesn't work out, then you can start saying "he's my EX."<BR/><BR/>IMHO :)Langston Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07208945768392918762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-43547528423097514472009-02-09T13:40:00.000-05:002009-02-09T13:40:00.000-05:00Sure you and I are probably old school when it com...Sure you and I are probably old school when it comes to naming names, but for a lot of people an Ex can be anyone you want to call an Ex. It can be anyone that you thought that a relationship had been established and that you had thought there were possibilities of a future. <BR/><BR/>As for the length of time, there is no real issue. Some people get married for 2 weeks and decide it was a mistake and divorce. Did their marriage not exist because of the length of time? I don't think so. Same with an Ex.Curioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03784893681266233567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-11806989308898750212009-02-09T13:27:00.000-05:002009-02-09T13:27:00.000-05:00what makes an EX indeed?what makes an EX indeed?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14948903601663342276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13155851.post-22787869240518126842009-02-09T12:01:00.000-05:002009-02-09T12:01:00.000-05:00i totally agree people seem to call everyone they ...i totally agree people seem to call everyone they dated their EXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com